Our oldest child has recently graduated and as I watch her go through this season I have so many thoughts. I’m surprised by the amount of times she’s asked “What are you going to do with your life?”.
I realize as I hear this asked of her over and over that one of the best things we could have done as parents is to instill in her that she is a child of God (regardless of her job, etc.) and that she is what 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light”.
Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God knows the plans He has for us… it could be easy at this stage to feel like her self worth is based off her plans, her schooling, her current job, etc, but really before she was formed in the womb she was known and set apart. (Jer. 1:5)
Jeremiah goes on in 29:13 to say, “You will seek me and find me when you see seek me with all your heart.” But if we don't seek Him how can we find Him? How do we know what those plans are?
The dictionary defines seek: to go in search of, look for, to try to discover.
That’s not something you get by just sitting. It requires action, movement and purpose and not something which necessarily comes easy to anyone, let alone a teenager. But I'm knowing that if it’s something that taught’s at a young age, seen at a young age with consistency, and then modeled, it’s something that can bring only peace and comfort to every situation. It’s a tool that will never fail her.
I don't want to raise a child that's looking to always please people (her parents, friends, bosses, etc) but one that holds fast to her beliefs and knows without a doubt who she is in Christ, what her Heavenly Father has planned for her, and knows it’s because she's sought him and knows his voice. The biggest thing we can instill in her is her having her own relationship with God.
So we’re quite happy with the response to “What are you going to do now?” Being, “Seeking God and finding out what His will is for me.” We don't expect her to have life all figured out the week after graduation. We want her to grow into the woman she’s supposed to be, and want her to be able to have the right start in a safe environment; our home, where, if there are struggles, we’re able to help if needed.
When she was smaller it felt like we had forever with her, time to teach her and show her. As I look at today I realize in the blink of an eye that time is gone and I wonder - have we done everything we should have and could have? Did we teach her the right way, God’s way in all instances? I realize that although we may have missed the mark on moments, she has the best resource to find all the answers.